So we’ve been here about a week now.
Here means just outside of Portland, Oregon.
It’s been a little rough, as I expected it would be. I also suppose it hasn’t been as bad as my worst fears, so that’s something.
Brian and I both came down with the flu over Christmas (given to us by the movers who packed up our stuff), and that made for a pretty rotten holiday. We made the most of it, but we were not able to do everything we had planned, and we were forced to skip seeing loved ones for fear of getting them sick, which really sucked.
We returned to our mostly bare apartment for one night in sleeping bags so that we could rise early, grab the cat, and make the 10 hour drive to Portland all in one day.
I have a love-hate relationship with this cat, and that morning it was definitely hate. And pity, I suppose. She refused to eat any of the sedative-infused food we offered her. We had given her some a few weeks prior as a trial run, just to make sure she wasn’t allergic and to see how she would do. I can only imagine that she remembered that experience and was like, “No effing way I am doing that again, you guys.” We tried putting it in dry food. We tried hiding it in chicken. And then we tried just forcing it into her mouth and down her throat. To no avail. At this point we were behind schedule, so she got shoved into the cat carrier, hungry and unmedicated, and off we went.
Despite the struggles of the morning, Sadie (the cat) did pretty well. She howled solidly for the first 45 minutes and then would pass out for 20 minutes at a time, only to wake up and howl some more. I had to just emotionally detach myself from her in order to cope. I kept telling her, “I love you, and you are safe,” which I think was more for my benefit than for hers.
The drive up was pretty damn gorgeous, and wonderfully uneventful (the cat howling aside). We passed Shasta and saw a bit of snow in the shade in the mountains. We stopped for lunch in Ashland, which was good to check out again.
We arrived at our new place after dark and I was just exhausted. The cat was freaking out and had no bed to hide under. We unloaded most of our two cars, ordered pizza, and then passed out on an air mattress.
This is the first time I’ve ever moved somewhere and not had something waiting for me on the other side. We moved because my husband found an amazing job, which is awesome, and we are both thankful for that. As for me, I am now left with the daunting task of trying to figure out how to get relicensed in this new state and how to find a job. I know zero clinicians in Oregon, and so I am left to email perfect strangers to answer my questions. We left the warmth and sunshine of California, and I can definitely feel that tugging at my wellbeing. I wonder to myself if Oregon will ever really feel like home.
To sum up, I feel scared and sad, and somewhat stuck. I am fighting it, but the energy only comes in spurts. I am very, very thankful to have one good friend in the area I know from California, and of course my husband is there for me, as I am for him.
I don’t like moving and I don’t like change and I hate the unknown. In my moodier states, I feel like I am on a raft, just drifting aimlessly in an endless foggy sea. That just makes me want to curl up in a ball and wait until the raft bumps into something.
I guess I’d better fashion myself a friggin paddle.