Sometimes I feel like cancer is everywhere.
Well, when it happens to your dad, it really is everywhere.
My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer about 1.5 years ago, and it was a huge emotional blow.
It brought up my own crap around my own cancer experience, but it mostly reminded me of human mortality and that my dad wouldn’t be around forever. It was uncomfortable. It was scary. It was painful. It was overwhelming.
I am thankful for several things around this experience with my dad. I am thankful that he got treatment right away. He listened to his body and he knew there was something wrong, and so he went and got checked out. Thank crazygoodness that he did. My dad got the treatment that he needed, and to this day, he’s still cancer free and healthy as a horse again.
I am thankful that my dad was able to talk about his experience. I think my family was put to the test when I got cancer almost 10 years ago now, and my dad and I were actually able to bond over our similar medical experiences. My dad also told his friends and coworkers about his cancer, and you know what happened? Because my dad had the balls to open up and talk about what he was going through, he found out that he wasn’t alone. Not by a longshot. He found out that some of his friends had also had prostate cancer, and friends of friends, and fathers of friends, brothers of friends. They were able to trade stories, give advice, and comfort each other. That part was pretty awesome.
So, I have four things to say, whether you’re male or female:
1. Listen to your body and go to the doctor.
You know your body better than any medical professional with a white coat and a God complex. Advocate for yourself.
2. Talk to people you trust about your health.
You’ll be surprised just how many people have been through what you are going through.
3. If you have a loved one going through cancer, please don’t stay silent.
In my experience, often people feel so overwhelmed and afraid to say the wrong thing that they end up saying nothing at all. Please, if you don’t know what to say to a loved one, just let them know that you care and ask if there’s anything you can do to help. Trust me, just knowing that there are people out there who care and who are thinking about you really means a lot.
4. Contribute to the cause.
USA: follow this link – you can also donate by phone: 1-310-450-3399;
Canada: follow this link – you can also donate by phone: 1-855-447-6966;
Check out Le Clown’s post on Movember and get inspired!